I'm assuming the fact I was picturing a female succubus, desiring one in my mind's eye as I said the non specific words was what hopefully called just that. As I mentioned I've communicated with it many times and it always tells me she's a female, and my wife but I'm not still naieve enough to think there aren't spirits that lie. But then I don't see what it would gain from lying, it's had me completely at its mercy, it's not like it needs to trick me it still could overpower my self control.