For the spiritually deaf, blind and dumb such as moi, how do you know if an unbound wants to be bound? Is there a reading or something that could tell you that you have such and such spirit around you/calling and they want to be bound?

I understand a reverse adoption makes a great solution, however I'm not comfortable with getting a spirit without doing research on them.

It's driving me mad because I can't stop thinking about this spirit, but I don't feel comfortable with working with their race. Don't get me wrong, I both admire and respect their race, I just doubt I could handle having one around. Although I might make this exception.

If you can't get the spirit out of your head...it is probably calling you and would like to be bound to you.

In answer to your other question, yes, there are readings one can have done to find out if a particular spirit wants to be bound.