First of all relax, for what you are saying is very normal to experience for the simple reason that we are all conditioned to experience things through our all of our senses, seeing, touch, hearing, smelling and tasting, if we can't do any of those things, the surly it must not be real!!!! Actually this is a very normal thing to experience when you first come into spirit keeping and have had no experience of the paranormal kind of thing!!!!

So I will ask you to do this instead, think back when you were a little kid, did you not talk to a imaginary friend? One that only you could see? Or if you had a toy like a animal stature or a stuff animal, did you not talk to it and in your mind's eye see the animal you were talking to and having a whole conversation with it?

Keep that child like mind set open to help you start out, keep talking to your spirit and I would suggest keeping a notebook, because spirits can communicate in many different ways, through that song that pops up, or through a movie you are watching that reminds you of your spirit, and through your dreams. By keeping track of those things, you may notice that your spirit has been trying to come through for you after all, it is the little things that we may over look!!!!

Also since this was a DA spirit, there are people who are more connected to the DA energy and it feels very normal to them, so they may not feel things like others who are more in line with the WA energy!!!!

Also know that it is very normal to have doubts when first starting out, so it will take a little work to let yourself be open to the paranormal, it will not happen over nite, but if you keep track of things like your dream, thoughts and feelings, you will see it seeping into you over time!!!! Nothing ever happens over nite or right away!!! Others may have been attuned to the paranormal all of their lives, while others are not and have to work at it, in order to experience it!!!!

So don't let those self doubts bother you, just know that they are a normal thing to have and also don't have expectations, for what others experience will not be the same for you and others, everyone will experience things differently!!!!

So just keep talking to your spirit and keep track of the little things that will happen!!!! Also don't give up either, remember it takes time to grow into spirit keeping!!!! 7\

Also I am glad you posted about this, for getting others thoughts and feelings can be a big help too!!!! 7\

starfire :dragons::

First off everything starfire said is absolutely correct.

I remember when I first started with a succubus about 2 years ago. I was filled with doubts and wonders. At first I was really scared of what I thought was her thanks to all the false information on the internet about ubi (succubi/incubi). Soon that fear wore off as I did not experience much from her at the time (or so I thought). It actually turned out that she was touching me all along and I just did not realize it.

The truth is I did not really believe in the beginning, but a small kernel of me held out hope. This mostly manifested itself as my not removing her vessel from my person once I put it on a chain around my neck. I would occasionally send a few thoughts her way, and occasionally meditated with her vessel not really expecting anything, and honestly not doing much.

My point in writing this little story is that it takes time. I have hardly scratched the surface of everything. If you read around the form, some spirits can take years or decades to manifest.

I have a few suggestions.
1)hold that kernel of hope, and when its time you will know.
2)Dont buy more stuff thinking it will immediately help you to jump into spiritkeeping because it wont regardless of its power class.
3) Give it time, talk to her occasionally, think about her, keep her vessel with you where ever you go, dont forget about her. Most importantly dont make interacting with her a chore, being friends with someone should never be a chore, if it was you would not have any friends!

Just give it time, stop thinking and wishing so furiously. I really think it takes our mind time to realize the interactions our spirits have with us.

Well thats my cents! Good luck to you!

You have been given great advice. All I can add is, give yourself a chance. You don't lose anything by calming yourself and allowing the experience to be real and genuine. If you continue to pelt the situation with skepticism you are going to miss the nuances and subtleties that accompany the paranormal. You will miss the little signs that come through the experiences because you'll only be looking for the fireworks.

It's natural when you embark on any new venture to have the instinct to safeguard yourself by considering the situation from all angles and forming doubts. However, once you've let those run their course, settle the issue in your mind and move forward. You lose nothing by opening yourself to this experience and giving it a chance to change your life.

It always helps to start practicing , because when the correct answers start coming in, we get a feel for what it's like when we are hitting the target.

Do experiments with your spirit. Ask what color car you will park behind when you go on an errand later. Ask what color a person will be wearing when you see them later. If there's no one fitting that description, ask what color the news anchor will have on when you tune in. Flip a coin, cover it before you see it, and ask if it's "heads" or "tails". (Or ask for a result before you flip the coin.)

The only way to build a skill is to buckle down and use it. We can read volumes of books on riding a bike, but eventually the time comes when we have to don the bike helmet, get our rump onto that bike seat, and pedal. If we take a spill, oh well -- we've learned what NOT to do, so we can get back on and not do that unwanted thing this time.

Training the non-physical senses is like that. We just have to practice all the time and keep refining our technique based on our results. Made a mistake? Not the end of the world. Remember what that answer felt like when we got it, and consider that feeling to be a "not on target" indicator. Got it right? Hooray, remember THAT feeling and use it to gauge accuracy next time around.

Everyone wipes out when they start riding a bike. And everyone "wipes out" when doing these experiments. We just have to get back up and pick up where we left off.