Ah, no problem! I hope that you find the best route that works for you to consistently hear your Djinn, and discover the things that are personal to her that she likes. In the meantime, enjoy the journey! They really are my favorites to work with. I might just be spoiled since one of my first spirits was E., and he's such a beautiful, loving, and obvious presence who is forgiving of my foibles, but they are very wise and powerful companions.
I wouldn't worry so much about her getting upset over music. Keep in mind these are very ancient spirits. They've had a lot of time to perfect their cool demeanor. That's part of why I found it so amusing to feel A. getting into the beat of some silly pop music. His vessel is the only one that vibrates when I play a certain song, which never fails to make me smile. On the other hand, neither E. nor A. enjoy Evanescence, but that is the only thing I have found that has made S. warm up to me (literally--her vessel gets warm to the touch when I play emo-ish music, and she communicates with me now, but prior to that I was tempted to think I was sold a pretty ring and not much else). Much to my chagrin, none of them like Adele, Mozart, or the type of meditation music I enjoy. I don't even remember who recommended the Katy Perry thing to me. Maybe someone else here at CH? I honestly hated the song at first, but after experiencing how much they got a kick out of it, I've come to like it more.
I really am spoiling them with the music, though. It's reached the point where they have figured out how to turn on the computer I use in the living room that's hooked up to the TV, and will turn it on when they want me to play something for them. Thankfully they haven't figured out how to turn on the TV and speakers on their own. I do not
need to hear Youtube videos blasted through my speakers at 3AM.
Anyway, you'll find something that clicks with her, I'm sure. Probably through random scrolling on the radio one day, or letting random Youtube playlists do their thing. Just hope that whatever it is will be something you enjoy, too!