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House rules are sort of like guidelines you set for your spirits to follow. For example you may set a rule like "Do not interact with anyone in any way unless given permission" or something similar. At least that's how i look at it.

House rules are basically how we communicate to our spirit family what is acceptable behavior and our expectations from them while they are with us. They can range from general to very specific dependant upon the types of spirits entities or servitors you keep. The main thing to keep in mind is many of the individuals we work with all come from different backgrounds and have lived or are living lives far different than ours. Many are quite literally from a different world, so culture, values, beliefs and general mentality all differ. House rules try to bridge the gap, so to speak

I've stuck to the obvious house rules so far and it has worked out alright. Don't hurt me, don't hurt others, report unbounds, act on my thoughts not my emotions, etc. But the most important rule in my home is Don't tease the dogs! I've had to enforce that one a few times.

Here are my house rules, some I have adopted from what others have posted on the forum and some are my own, so far no issues

All rules must be upheld at all times regardless of the mental, emotional or physical state I am in. My house, my rules. I am the ultimate authority on these rules, and if they are not obeyed, the offending party will be punished. Punishments will scale to the severity of the offense, and I will be fair in my decisions. I reserve the right to alter, adapt, or in any way change these rules. I will ensure everyone is notified of any changes made.
01. Pranks are allowed as long as no harm comes to any one.
02. Please only show yourself to me. Others must not even know you are around.
04. You are allowed to come with me anywhere even if I don't take your vessel. However, when I call on you, please come to my aid immediately. You may also share my food and drinks with me.
05. At this time I cannot spare any energy. If you have any extra, please allow me to use it.
06. Do not act on any thoughts, feelings or harsh words I may say or think, without my permission and do not twist my words.
07. No interfering with communications with other bound spirits, or unbounds that are welcomed.
08. Engage unbounds and report them to me or use your best judgment if their intentions are good.
09. Pursue and remove anything with malicious intent.
10. Harm none unless clearly specifically asked by me or if they are trying to harm me or my loved ones.
11. No playing with electricals
12. Telepathy, intuition, or visions during relaxation/meditation is one way to communicate with me, although please be patient as I am working on building my receptivity in these areas. Dream visitation is encouraged, but do not bring nightmares, and please aid my memory of the dream upon waking.
13. Protect my home and my family from all harm
14. Never do anything that could cause me bad karma
15. Do not block each-other and inform me should there be any disagreements within the spirit family, always respect one another and more importantly no fighting.
16. You are not to attempt to frighten or otherwise negatively influence anyone in the household without instruction. This includes me, the Family, friendly welcomed visitors, pets, and wildlife.
17. Disable any malicious magick sent at me and my family.
18. If I leave out food/drink offerings or treats, feel free to consume as much as you like. If you require energy, you may take what you need from my altar, within the following guidelines;
a) at no time are you permitted to take energy from active spellwork, and
b) you are not permitted to take energy from any of my devotional offerings to deities.
19. Guard my secrets, sensitive information, and personal life from those I do not want aware of their details. To the best of your ability, stop others from prying into my affairs, or stumbling across such information accidentally. Keep the home safe and happy for all of us, and I will endeavor to do the same.

tizmo wrote:Here are my house rules, some I have adopted from what others have posted on the forum and some are my own, so far no issues

All rules must be upheld at all times regardless of the mental, emotional or physical state I am in. My house, my rules. I am the ultimate authority on these rules, and if they are not obeyed, the offending party will be punished. Punishments will scale to the severity of the offense, and I will be fair in my decisions. I reserve the right to alter, adapt, or in any way change these rules. I will ensure everyone is notified of any changes made.
01. Pranks are allowed as long as no harm comes to any one.
02. Please only show yourself to me. Others must not even know you are around.
04. You are allowed to come with me anywhere even if I don't take your vessel. However, when I call on you, please come to my aid immediately. You may also share my food and drinks with me.
05. At this time I cannot spare any energy. If you have any extra, please allow me to use it.
06. Do not act on any thoughts, feelings or harsh words I may say or think, without my permission and do not twist my words.
07. No interfering with communications with other bound spirits, or unbounds that are welcomed.
08. Engage unbounds and report them to me or use your best judgment if their intentions are good.
09. Pursue and remove anything with malicious intent.
10. Harm none unless clearly specifically asked by me or if they are trying to harm me or my loved ones.
11. No playing with electricals
12. Telepathy, intuition, or visions during relaxation/meditation is one way to communicate with me, although please be patient as I am working on building my receptivity in these areas. Dream visitation is encouraged, but do not bring nightmares, and please aid my memory of the dream upon waking.
13. Protect my home and my family from all harm
14. Never do anything that could cause me bad karma
15. Do not block each-other and inform me should there be any disagreements within the spirit family, always respect one another and more importantly no fighting.
16. You are not to attempt to frighten or otherwise negatively influence anyone in the household without instruction. This includes me, the Family, friendly welcomed visitors, pets, and wildlife.
17. Disable any malicious magick sent at me and my family.
18. If I leave out food/drink offerings or treats, feel free to consume as much as you like. If you require energy, you may take what you need from my altar, within the following guidelines;
a) at no time are you permitted to take energy from active spellwork, and
b) you are not permitted to take energy from any of my devotional offerings to deities.
19. Guard my secrets, sensitive information, and personal life from those I do not want aware of their details. To the best of your ability, stop others from prying into my affairs, or stumbling across such information accidentally. Keep the home safe and happy for all of us, and I will endeavor to do the same.

Thank you Tizmo this has been very helpful to me, my next question might seem kind of silly but when you address house rules how would you go about saying it?? To me I feel like it should be something like this, I would like to call a spirit family meeting to discuss house rules etc...

Thank you everone for helping me out, really means a lot to me

elena.rose wrote:
Thank you Tizmo this has been very helpful to me, my next question might seem kind of silly but when you address house rules how would you go about saying it?? To me I feel like it should be something like this, I would like to call a spirit family meeting to discuss house rules etc...

Not a silly question at all. Most questions are not silly questions and especially not here, which is part of the reason I love this forum so much, everyone is so accepting of others. Yes, occasionally there are disagreements but that will happen in any group of people but for the most part, everyone gets along and helps each other out, we gotta stick together! Another forum I am a member of (not about keeping, it's for another of my hobbies), if someone posts something that was already answered and that person didn't see the answer, the mods get all mad and yell at them IT WAS ALREADY ANSWERED, YOU NEED TO LEARN TO READ! which is very discouraging and not helpful at all, I rarely post anything on that forum because I don't want to get yelled at Thank goodness that's not the case here

How I normally do it is, after I welcome a new spirit (usually I light some incense and a candle and meditate with their vessel or if I didn't get the spirit from CH I will follow the instructions of what the seller told me to do etc) I will just think "at" all my spirits to "pay attention please" and read the house rules to them in my head. You can out loud but I live with someone who doesn't know I keep and if I read all that out and they heard, there would be questions lol! I typically request everyone to listen in even if they have heard the rules before because sometimes I make changes to the rules periodically, like the one about taking my energy. I used to allow them to use my extra spare energy but due to new prescriptions that cause me to feel lethargic allllll the time, I need every bit I have and then some (my psy vamps help me out in that respect as well).

Feel free to ask anything else you are wondering about. I'm happy to help if I can

tizmo wrote:Here are my house rules, some I have adopted from what others have posted on the forum and some are my own, so far no issues

These are great and seem to cover almost everything! Would you mind if I tweaked them a tiny bit and then used them for my own spirit family? I'm welcoming in a DA spirit in the very near future and these are a lot more specific than the ones I was using before. If not, that's ok!