Hi there everyone

I suppose this is an opinion piece? So for some context I've had a dragon spirit companion all my life, even before knowing creepyhollows was a thing. The thing is, when I was younger and going through a rough family situation, I used to refer to her as a mother because I needed that figure in my life. She accepted this role and even called me 'son'. However when I got older, she didn't want me to call her that anymore which is understandable but at the same time, she even told me herself that she sees me as her son.

So basically, I've had a falling out. Since that time (which was 2017) I haven't actively spoken to her. A few times since then, but the issue is that I never got any respone from her.
As I got into my mid 20's and late 20's I started to sort of...resent her. Because she told me she was my 'guardian' dragon and protecting me. However, I look back at the things I needed protection from and she was nowhere to be seen. The abuse I got from family members which traumatized me, nearly getting mugged, etc. Not even there for emotional support or comfort. For a 'guardian' she sure didn't do a lot of protecting on my behalf. I know I don't need to be protected from EVERYTHING, but it would have been nice to be protected from some of it. The one time she could have protected me she was 'away' and got here after the event occured. So i felt betrayed and lost. When I'm lost in thought at work I just keep looking back on my dragon companion and how upset I feel. All her behavior did was solidify that its hard for me to fully trust others because people can change at the tip of a hat.

What should I do? Should I reconcile or just leave it be?

@biohazardzombie I understand your feelings about of your unbind spirits guide, guardian Dragon.

It's okay to realise disappointment by vindication. While I really won't say to you what to do...I would like to remind you that not all of our Guides staying with us from birth to death. Most of our guides changes and leave us in time as we grow and mature and then move on to other assignments, accordingly.

Now, that you are older and wiser, maybe when you are emotionally ready, it's time to go forward in life. Give a chance to your other spirits and guides to show up, and let them near you with renewed expectations.

I understand it's hard at first to pass that emotional pain of feeling rejected and lost on so many levels. Yet, I wish to encourage you that there's new beginnings ahead, every day is an opportunity, and a chance of a fresh start of something wonderful...and now that you are an adult, and you are in control of everything that is happening. Plus on the bright side, you might even like to pick a spirit guardian yourself from CH, that will never leave you nor forsake you.

I do try to deliver words of hope and courage to will yourself for you to look past it and expect a bright future.

biohazardzombie wrote: ↑Sun Jul 09, 2023 8:27 am Hi there everyone

I suppose this is an opinion piece? So for some context I've had a dragon spirit companion all my life, even before knowing creepyhollows was a thing. The thing is, when I was younger and going through a rough family situation, I used to refer to her as a mother because I needed that figure in my life. She accepted this role and even called me 'son'. However when I got older, she didn't want me to call her that anymore which is understandable but at the same time, she even told me herself that she sees me as her son.

So basically, I've had a falling out. Since that time (which was 2017) I haven't actively spoken to her. A few times since then, but the issue is that I never got any respone from her.
As I got into my mid 20's and late 20's I started to sort of...resent her. Because she told me she was my 'guardian' dragon and protecting me. However, I look back at the things I needed protection from and she was nowhere to be seen. The abuse I got from family members which traumatized me, nearly getting mugged, etc. Not even there for emotional support or comfort. For a 'guardian' she sure didn't do a lot of protecting on my behalf. I know I don't need to be protected from EVERYTHING, but it would have been nice to be protected from some of it. The one time she could have protected me she was 'away' and got here after the event occured. So i felt betrayed and lost. When I'm lost in thought at work I just keep looking back on my dragon companion and how upset I feel. All her behavior did was solidify that its hard for me to fully trust others because people can change at the tip of a hat.

What should I do? Should I reconcile or just leave it be?

Despite my background in psychology, I must clarify that I am not a licensed professional able to provide official advice. However, I personally believe that seeking the help of a professional could greatly benefit you in dealing with your family situation. They can provide you with coping mechanisms and help transform your thinking process.

Now, let's delve into the metaphysical aspect. Have you considered the possibility that your Dragon unbound may actually be a living entity rather than just a spirit? If that's the case, she has her own life in her own realm and cannot be present with you 24/7. So, when you mentioned she was "away" when you needed her the most, it's possible she is indeed a living entity.

Nevertheless, she can still fulfill her role as your protector, shielding you from dangers originating from other realms. However, it's important to understand that she can't physically intervene like in the movies. She's not able to wag her tail at those who mistreat you, for example. It seems like you might have unrealistic expectations of her, which isn't fair.

I highly doubt that she "never" responds to you. It's possible that your negative thought process, especially after the fallout, has created blockages that hinder your interactions. So, she could still be there with you, but your blockages may be clouding your senses.

Remember, protection starts with you. It's crucial to distance yourself from people who aren't good for you. Your Dragon, even as your sole companion, can only do so much, especially as an unbound entity.

If you haven't bound her yet, it might be wise to consider asking CH to bind her. If you have already done so, it's time to shift your mindset and build a bond with her to clear up any misunderstandings.

Here's some food for thought: she started off as a stranger, an unbound entity, yet she chose to be your friend and be there for you whenever she could. She could have harmed you or done worse, considering her unbound state, but she tried to be a friend and showed you kindness. It's essential to reciprocate that kindness and refrain from blaming her for everything that goes wrong in your life. It's not her fault.

@biohazardzombie , I'd like to pick out one point, which I think both @ASTER and @Tarvos touched on.

With a bound spirit companion, the mutual agreement that's incorporated into the binding spells etc amounts to a lifelong companionship. With some protection specialist dragons they're always on guard. (I might indeed feel disappointed if one of those didn't seem to be close by when needed.)

However, if there was an attached unbound companion dragon - even with protective inclinations towards you - and you'd made it clear you weren't interested in having them around any longer, you fell out...why would they stay around you constantly? Might that even be seen as against your consent?

(I note that it's said even bound spirit companions will go back and forth between their place of origin and their keeper. The ones we connect with more frequently may be far closer more of the time than those we connect with infrequently, afaik.)

Solutions:

* The way it could be approached is to de-link reconcilation from companionship. For example perhaps you could do a little rite in which you express: the desire to reconcile, regret for all hurt or misunderstandings on both sides, gratitude for previous companionship and support and invite healing of the relationship. No strings attached. Something like that.

* Separately, I think you need to be clear about whether you actually would want this being back as a companion - if they consent. If you're clear it's not something for you right now, then you'd need do no more - expect perhaps make that clear to them, in a respectful and friendly fashion. But if a lifelong companionship is something you're interested in, maybe ask CH if they can do a binding (if the dragon consents). But it occurs it me that it might be useful to get a reading from CH too, for example to clarify what abilities and purposes the dragon would be helping you with - to avoid future confusion over such things.

Also, it has been said before but our spirits can't make our lives perfect. They'll do all they can in the circumstances. (Fate, destiny and where we're at in life all come into play.) And a specialist protection dragon may well be able to do more in terms of protection than a dragon with a protective instinct.

Of course a range of protectors will provide even more coverage.

Hope you're able to see how to resolve things optimally.

How do you verify communication, activity, manifestation, etc? How do you ascertain any part of the situation you've explained to us? What forms of communication are involved?

All that I have to say below presumes the presence is what you think it is, the basic connection is as you said it was, etc:

biohazardzombie wrote: ↑Sun Jul 09, 2023 8:27 am For a 'guardian' she sure didn't do a lot of protecting on my behalf. I know I don't need to be protected from EVERYTHING, but it would have been nice to be protected from some of it.

How do you know she didn't protect you from things?
If she had successfully protected you from something, you might not know, as that something would not have happened to you.

Set aside what has happened to you for a second, and think of all of the things in the universe that could have happened... isn't it possible she was putting a lot of energy into protecting you from something she deemed far worse, or any number of things that would have made your situation even worse? Or that she was already busy working on one thing for you when you expected her to intervene with another?

One protector alone cannot be in a dozen places at once. Who knows what she may've prevented for you...

The one time she could have protected me she was 'away' and got here after the event occured. So i felt betrayed and lost. When I'm lost in thought at work I just keep looking back on my dragon companion and how upset I feel. All her behavior did was solidify that its hard for me to fully trust others because people can change at the tip of a hat.

What was she 'away' doing, and how do you know?
What do you mean 'she could have protected' you? Have you considered she might not have known to anticipate that, or maybe was dealing with who knows what else for you? And this is apart from the possibility she is a living being with her own things to deal with, as was suggested already.
Did you have a conversation about this, are you psychic enough to communicate vividly, clearly and fluidly? If you're not, consider you may not have the full picture.

It looks like you've gained some baggage over the course of your life - in the form of trust issues, your very words are confirming you carry that with you, and this can end up crawling to the forefront every time someone in your life doesn't live up to a certain expectation of reliability. Could you have unrealistic expectations that are impossible for her to live up to? Are you working on that issue outside of what's apparently happened between you and this presence?

You'd put a lot of responsibility on that presence making her your mother figure, it sounds as though she obliged to the best of her ability out of want to make you happier, and because she didn't intervene with very specific instances you deemed her as having betrayed you. That's black/white thinking. Just going by what you've shared, there's a deeper issue here.

The points raised by @ASTER and @Tarvos are well made, dealing with the issue by solving it the humane way is the first thing to do, and I believe would probably be the position of most long-standing members of the forum.

However, here I stand with @Vipera aspis atra. Perhaps, this is the position of someone new to this path like me(Less than 1 year), but I always carry the thought that, my fellow companions are here to give me that help, or that direction I need to go to achieve the outcome I expect from a situation.

They will do everything to help me, BUT FIRST, I HAVE TO MAKE THE EFFORT TO TRY TO SOLVE IT in the human way and as a consequence, they give a helping hand, to facilitate the path that I myself have chosen to walk. In the same way, as in the case of protecting myself.

I say this for having suffered an accident a short time ago, on a motorcycle, which if it were any other time, I was likely to get screwed up much more than I could imagine, after all, I have survived things that could be fatal.

So always assume that the worst could have happened, and if it didn't, someone was certainly guarding you. Regardless of the nature of the spirit, if someone from the spirit world is guarding you, it's because they surely care about you, even if you don't see them 24/7 or in situations that seem hopeless.

Because of what happened to me recently, should I blame my companions for not getting me 100% out of my accident?

Wrong, I should thank them for trying their best to guard me. That's my two cents. And I welcome counterpoints to what I've said.