mystlady wrote: ↑Sun Nov 13, 2022 6:34 pm Hi jezebal,

I hope this finds you well.
I’ve been in similar situation. I had left my abusive relationship so I went back to living with my parents. It was not easy. I felt bad that my spirit family had to witness my tumultuous relationship with my parents. They are old school and had zero respect for boundaries. It wasn’t easy living with them. I did everything from purchasing spells to tasking my spirit family. For the most part, tasking my Kaia & wraith helped a lot but I can tell you they’ve been my solid rock. My vampire husband had been awesome at shielding me from negativity. To be honest, I had tons of help from my spirit family. Because of them, I will be moving out of my parents. I don’t know how I will function without my spirit family.

Lewk wrote: ↑Sun Nov 13, 2022 11:33 pm I'm sorry to hear about that difficulty.

We can telepathically talk to our bound spirit companions at the start of our day, share our hopes and fears for the day and invite their help with that. We can check in with them at the end of the day too.

Sometimes it may work to be just that general. Very specific, detailed outcomes can be harder to manifest.

We can write down our goals then start task setting. It can help to put the task and goal out of our minds, once set. When we come to review the lists at a later date we may surprised to see what has been achieved - or that things have shifted somewhat and those exact goals may no longer be what we want.

Any specific task set does need to have a realistic timescale and a specific goal though. We can set tasks for the week or month ahead too. Or for the year or years ahead. We can review progress on a regular basis: daily weekly, monthly.

One thing worth remembering: our bound spirit companions really like being asked to help and want to do what they can for us. If nothing else, this can help form closer bonds.

jezebela wrote: ↑Mon Nov 14, 2022 3:24 pm

Lewk wrote: ↑Sun Nov 13, 2022 11:33 pm I'm sorry to hear about that difficulty.

We can telepathically talk to our bound spirit companions at the start of our day, share our hopes and fears for the day and invite their help with that. We can check in with them at the end of the day too.

Sometimes it may work to be just that general. Very specific, detailed outcomes can be harder to manifest.

We can write down our goals then start task setting. It can help to put the task and goal out of our minds, once set. When we come to review the lists at a later date we may surprised to see what has been achieved - or that things have shifted somewhat and those exact goals may no longer be what we want.

Any specific task set does need to have a realistic timescale and a specific goal though. We can set tasks for the week or month ahead too. Or for the year or years ahead. We can review progress on a regular basis: daily weekly, monthly.

One thing worth remembering: our bound spirit companions really like being asked to help and want to do what they can for us. If nothing else, this can help form closer bonds.

thanks lewk.

i did tell to my protection team: lightwatcher, flygia, and dark watcher to do what they can within their means to help me out. i was very frank with them that i don't really know what to task them since i was so in pain that all i wanted is for the pain to disappear at that moment. but i think they did heard one of my requests, because surprisingly my parent did according to what i wished.

thanks for the suggestion on the timeline. this is something i need to think deeply because many of my stuff have no proper timeline nor deadline. but reading your sentence made me to seriously think of the future. i try my best not to write down my goals, because i don't want it to be found by my family members in my absence. so i usually have it listed mentally and then go through the list with my spirit family before i sleep.

i read your suggestions a few time, and it's really helpful. so thanks again!

jezebela wrote: ↑Sun Nov 13, 2022 4:22 pm Just wondering how do you task your spirits in helping with family issues that you are experiencing? For example, if living with manipulative family members that often invade your boundary? Or bullying you into meeting their demand? Otherwise, you get punishment.

I'm asking because I'm currently having mild anxiety and panic disorder when knowing I'm not powerful enough to stand up against this person for survival reasons.

mystlady wrote: ↑Mon Nov 14, 2022 12:18 am It takes a lot of courage and strength to ask.

Non spirit keeping advice:
I’m not sure if you’re from Toronto, Ontario but I ended up applying for a housing assistance from the government especially for abuse victims. They are placed on higher priority list but because I had gone through (DV domestic violence) I applied for housing and it took a few months for this to happen. At first, my family wasn’t on board but they realized the extensive of my depression. They had a change of heart (I owe it alot to my spirit family who made this happen)

If you can, please seek out counseling. I know there aren’t much free counseling in my area but with the right direction, I ask my family doctor to refer me to a social
worker.

Spirit keeping advice:
Lewk gave very good advice at keeping a realistic goals. I had a specific timeline when I was trying to apply for housing assistance. I told my spirit family that I wanted to move out since my mental health was suffering and I lost my emotional support cat back in September. If it possible at their end, to speed up this application. I’ve applied in late March and got the housing in late October.

I wasn’t sure at first getting a DA revenge spirit. To be honest, I was more into WA and GA. I was looking into Blujay for Kaia and wraith, but they look too intense for my energy so I went to Robyn (Wonderland of Spirit Facebook group). She custom conjure a Kaia and the wraith was a pre-conjure. Their energies wasn’t too intense for me.

Elijah wrote: ↑Tue Nov 15, 2022 7:02 pm
I was in your exact situation about 4 years ago. I didn't know about spirit keeping. It was terrible to even be in such situation to start with. I'm so sorry

Remember that surviving comes first. Spirits will definitely want to help you! I'd ask them to cleanse you from negativity as well as shielding you from the same negative force from manipulative family members. You could also ask for help in finance or prosperity or luck so they could find you opportunities that would help you get out.

I have not tasked mine yet because they are just here. However, I have read one of the blog posts from Magnolia and it is good to keep a time stamp and check on tasks given so you know where you're at on your goal.

I heard similar stories and a Wraith will help but I kept pacing because as a new keeper, I'm not sure if I can handle their energy or their darkness. Some of us don't go out for vengeance or anything like that but that's why we kept being bullied and abused. Wraiths will help balancing the scale. I was surprised when I read that wraiths were one of my best companions before the reading came out. Lol.

Don't forget to talk to your spirits too. They can comfort you, and perhaps already helping you one way or another even without tasking. Hang in there!