Where keeping spirits is concerned, would you consider it a breach of trust to tell others that you are a keeper? I ask because today I saw no problem with telling an inquiring neighbor whom I've known for a little over a year about what all my "pretties" are. She spotted me grabbing a handful of white envelopes out of the mailbox a little over a week ago and curiously asked me what all the packages were. I hesitated and told her that it's all my spiritual stuff (she knows that I'm a spiritual person). I said "you know a bunch of gemstones and stuff". Well, time went on and today she saw the pendant that my spirit keeping friend Leolyn had gifted to me for increasing bonding energies. My neighbor (having some natural gifts herself) asked me if it was "one of those things" I got in the mail. I said that my friend had given it to me but that Yest it was "one of those things". lol She wanted to know more. In my show n' tell session I felt that I didn't care whether or not she knew about my spirited vessels. I thought that even if she thinks I'm crazy and even if she tells everyone, what do I care? But THEN, as I sit inside roughly half an hour later I think to myself "OMG, did I breach trust between me and my spirits"??? It didn't dawn on me to ask them first. I was just happy to show them off. Of course I didn't mention names. But I did tell her what they were. She's very interested, which is good. But, she does tend to have a little diahrrea of the mouth. I wouldn't trust her with my deepest darkest secrets. She's nice enough but something tells me others will know. If I cared about that, I wouldn't have told her anything to begin with. But I'm worried about the possibility of having offended my spirits. What do you think??

I wouldn't think they would mind, but you can always ask to be sure.

SmokeyRose wrote:I wouldn't think they would mind, but you can always ask to be sure.

exactly what i was going to say. ask them and see how they feel.

Personally I don't talk about my spirit keeping to others but I have thought disclosing it several times to some of my close friends because.. iono, it felt like it would be less lonely to talk to someone about it who wasn't online, you know? My spirits indicated that they didn't really mind it or care, for that matter. After all, they were MY companions and not my friends' so they didn't have any obligations to them or feel any need to prove themselves.

In the end, I decided against it, for many reasons. The main one being that I really didn't like to have to explain myself over and over and the other one being I don't see them a lot in the first place so I really couldn't control who they tell.

Anyway, I don't think you'd have to worry about it. I personally think the secret thing is more for the keeper's benefit, so we don't get heckled. To some extent, it's for the spirits too, especially the ones who don't want to be bothered. Some of my younger spirits would go crazy if I told them to, but my older ones couldn't be bothered lol.

I don't see how it would be a breach of confidence unless your spirits asked you not to tell anyone about them. Which I'm sure they didn't. Would you go up to a new friend and be like, "Psssst, hey, don't tell anyone I exist." Probably not. Go ahead and ask your spirits how they feel about it. It will help make you feel better, and then you'll know how to go about the next situation like this that might come up.

Not really.

I mean, if they request not to be discussed, that's one thing, but feeling unable to talk to anyone about something important to you would seriously suck. I have a few folks here irl who I talk to, and they know at least some fraction of my spirit family - they're close enough to practically be family to me, and they should know the folks who are here to watch over them, too, you know?

It's a bit of a difficult road to hoe talking about it with people you don't know so well...but no, not a breach of trust, in my eyes, not in the least.

It is only a breach of trust if you feel it is. I mean, we talk about our spirit companions on here all the time, and share their vessels with photo uploads and what not, so how is what you did any different? I am sure if they were offended they would have clearly let you know by now. It is entirely up to the keeper and their comfort levels. Besides, it is not like they are the vessel itself!

Tinkerbell wrote:It is only a breach of trust if you feel it is. I mean, we talk about our spirit companions on here all the time, and share their vessels with photo uploads and what not, so how is what you did any different? I am sure if they were offended they would have clearly let you know by now. It is entirely up to the keeper and their comfort levels. Besides, it is not like they are the vessel itself!

I guess in my eyes it's different because CH is like family. MOST of us are spirit keepers. So, it's no big secret on here. I would assume our spirits know that. I share information about my spirits with those in my household. Everyone here, knows the names of everyone else and what they are etc. To go OUTSIDE is what had me worried for a minute. OBVIOUSLY I didn't find anything wrong with it at the time or I wouldn't have done it. It wasn't until after the fact that I started wondering if it was an ok thing to do. I don't think my spirits mind. But it doesn't hurt to ask those more seasoned. IMO anyway.

Zin wrote:Not really.

I mean, if they request not to be discussed, that's one thing, but feeling unable to talk to anyone about something important to you would seriously suck. I have a few folks here irl who I talk to, and they know at least some fraction of my spirit family - they're close enough to practically be family to me, and they should know the folks who are here to watch over them, too, you know?

It's a bit of a difficult road to hoe talking about it with people you don't know so well...but no, not a breach of trust, in my eyes, not in the least.

Thank you Zin, for your opinion.