Well said Drake!!!Drake wrote:That would basically be assisted suicide, which is illegal in a lot of places. It is really not something you should be asking about or something people would be offering.
On the other hand, if you're looking for someone to talk to, I would suggest help lines if those are available. Barring that, I am sure there are a people around here who would be glad to lend a ear if you need it.
If you're looking for a private place to talk to someone there is paraecho, which is an extension of this site where people can contact you.
https://www.paraecho.com
Just be careful about posting personal information.
Nirvana,
May I suggest you talk to somebody, anybody, sometimes strangers can be best as their is less "awkwardness" in opening up to what the real issue is that is troubling a person.
In my experience of life and human behaviour and emotions the most important question to always ask oneself is not Who...what...where...when...how? But WHY?!!!
When we examine ourselves and I have done this....it can be painful for sure but when we are completely honest with ourselves as to our character traits, our weaknesses our petty hates or our fears the real question that gets to the bottom of things is always (to me anyway) "Why?"
It can be applied to any situation.
I'm so sad! The first answers to the "why" question might be something like
"because my partner dumped me/cheated on me" etc.....my best friend isn't such a friend after all and I am so upset. I feel betrayed etc.
These are all valid feelings.....but we must go beyond these emotions which are really "triggers" to our responses.
That is where the real "why" comes in to help us get to the bottom of ourselves.
Why do we feel so upset? I am upset because......the answer isn't because our friend betrayed us....that is only the outer reason...the real reason is something deeper inside us that might make us feel weak for example....vulnerable....scared it will happen again.....that is what we must face and confront and when we do....like facing all fears, they then have no power over us.
I fully understand it is easy for me to write this now and it won't bring you much comfort at this point in time but please analyse yourself and even write down the things that make you feel this way.
Choose the main subjects that make you feel you don't want to be in this world anymore and then have sub sections underneath each one, attempting to narrow it down further and further until we reach the core of the matter...the real "why" as to why we feel like this or like that.
It works the other way as well....... and can help us see what real relationships are instead of the gloss that many cling to to make themselves feel better about themselves......IE: I am so in love with X!!! Really? Why?
They will answer they are so kind, loving etc....which is all good of course.....but what if there are other deeper reasons that are mistaken for "love".
Is he/she very handsome/beautiful (yes thats great of course lol) but does that somehow compensate for any sense of inferiorty in ourselves?
Do we wish to "own" them......this person belongs to me!! A desire to fill a gap in our oen character...jealousy of attention from others that may weaken our position with the beloved one. And we call it "love".
When we can honestly answer these questions to ourself then we become stronger characters and less prone to "suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune" as Shakespeare wrote!!!
Easier said than done of course.....and I have been in this trap myself more than once ))) as have most people I think.
As I said above....this can be very painful but it is cathartic....if done honestly it will probably bring out buckets of tears and rage but when it has subsided you will have taken a ton weight off your shoulders and the morning will be much brighter for you!!!
Trust me....I have done it!!!!
In the catholic sense...it is the ultimate "confession".....only you don't need a priest.....just self honesty....you are your own God.....talk to yourself!! "Confess" your fears and weaknesses and the stronger you that is waiting inside....the real you, will be born and come out into the daylight!!!
It is most important not to judge yourself by observing other people.....that is a never ending path to misery.....let them get on with it......you get on with becoming a "new you" that will have a brighter tomorrow.
I wrote in the quote thread:
"The past has no future....but you do"!!!!!
Sorry for rambling
Blessings to you xx