In a similar vein, I would like to add two things:Regholdain wrote:In reading this thread, I have been pondering why angels and spells may not help some people. ... I would say any lack of effect or work on the spirit's (or spell's) behalf would be that we are intended to learn, grow, and evolve from needing to deal with the situation on our own.
1) Our beings are not mind readers. (I know! Shocking!) Passively thinking and wishing for something is not the same thing as intentionally communicating a request to your being via telepathy. Analogy: I can imagine a conversation with my friend, but it is not the same as picking up the phone and calling them. If you want your being to perform a task for you, usually you need to make sure they're on the line, and you need to directly tell them.
2) Very rarely will a companion circumvent your free will, and when I say "rarely", I mean I can't personally think of an instance where it's happened, I think I would have to dig really hard to find one. As in the example above, you need to actually tell them what you would like them to do, listen to their feedback, sometimes negotiate, and check in on a regular basis in most circumstances. I know I am guilty of this mistake -- we acquire companions, look at their gifts, and just expect them to automatically use them in our favor, and then we're confused when nothing changes. Here's the thing: say you've been hired for a position based on your abilities -- you still can't really do your job until the person who supervises you tells you what they would like you to do. Under most circumstances it isn't going to work out if you just look around and guess. We are not being fair if we put our spirit or entity friends in that situation, either.
I find my results are best when I can look at a situation dispassionately, state the change I would like clearly and with intent, with suggestions that are open-ended but clear, reasonable, and physically possible, and then specifically ask for a being's help in accomplishing this outcome. And then it also works best if I do my part to move the situation in the desired direction. And then thank them for their help and for all of the amazing additional graces and gifts you will start to notice along the way.