CJDS wrote:It's quite saddening to see some replies are sounds negative to the idea, come on guys where's the optimism?
It's not about sounding negative about it.
When you go to spirituality to look for the love you desire, that's like the last straw, right before you give up on yourself. Because afterwards, there's no place left to go.
Imho it's one of the wrongest reasons to get into spirituality. You have no sound and stable basis to build on, at least not emotionally.
Would you say dealing with loneliness in that way is a really healthy way to do that?
It also feels a bit like a person resorting to that has given up on humanity and their physical life, which is definitely not a good thing.
Also desperation makes for big expectations and hopes, which might lead to start living in a fantasy because instead of communicating you only project your wishes.
Okay, I have to say something. Is it a good reason to get into spirituality? No, but if that's how he starts his path, how is that any of your concern?
It's how I started my path and without that start I would not have learned a lot about myself and about the spirit world. I would not have discovered and begun to develop my abilities so I can create a peaceful place of love for spirits to come to reconnect or so I can help them. I also would not feel like I've found my path, my meaning, the way I can make my mark - a legacy.
Did spirit lovers give me that? No, but they encouraged me to try to date, helped me find the girlfriend I was with for three years (though now broken up), and they encouraged me to evolve and grow in my abilities. Just working with them gave me that. And it is spirit lovers where I started.
We are not here to judge why others are doing what they are doing. Yes, I think it is important to remind people to live their life and not become delusional due to depression and loneliness. Yet I think the bottom line is that they find a balance between their physical life and the spiritual. That's important, but it is not our place to tell someone this is not how to deal with their life. You only know what they post, and you don't know what they choose not to say. You don't know if they were at a bar picking up a one night stand last week.
How people start their spiritual journey is their business, not ours.