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Re: Crush

Postby Whimsy » Sat Nov 30, 2019 10:08 am

I would say stop approaching him with any sort of expectations in mind because you're only going to make it more difficult for yourself. Getting over someone is rough business but I promise you, he's not the only one.

I remember I lost a good friend I once went out with and I was so sad because at first, I didn't even see him in that way but he won me over and then we broke up and it hurt because I still wanted to be friends and he didn't.

(We'd gotten into a little argument and we were both really young at the time so it wasn't going to last)

But had I never gone out with him in the first place, we'd probably still be friends!

Still, I couldn't force him to change his mind about me and so I had to let him go. And it sounds like you need to respect his feelings towards you and move on yourself.


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Re: Crush

Postby heypanda » Sun Dec 01, 2019 4:54 pm

I think you're right. Though I want to apologise to him, I don't think he would be willing to accept my apology, and it's likely that if I say anything at all to him it will make everything worse.

I have to completely forget him, as if he never existed. He is not who I thought he was anyway. It's massively disappointing.



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Re: Crush

Postby AlexCzernosech » Sun Dec 01, 2019 5:10 pm

Just like how you can't just pull out negative energy without replacing it with positive, maybe try replacing this person with developing a hobby. I myself have an unrequited crush, but I feel better when I use my time to make something nice instead of just sitting there pining after that person. That aside, time and space. Revisit the points that reinforce that putting space between you two is for the best. Do the best to just simply move on with your life.

If it helps, you can try a 'cord cutting'. Basically, a small ritual using a cord or ribbon to represent the connection you have. Visualize the cord/ribbon taking on the energy of your connection, and use scissors or a knife to cut the cord in half, also energetically severing the connection. You can then either just throw the cord pieces away, or burn them and bury the ashes if it feels right to you. This might help bring you some closure if talking to him will only make things worse.



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Re: Crush

Postby Whimsy » Sun Dec 01, 2019 5:55 pm

Well, I don't know if you need to forget him entirely! My friend, I still remember him and everything's okay! Like there's no pain anymore and I don't really think about him but I like the memories when I do think of him! Like right now.

I think what I liked most is that that guy reminded me so much of myself! I found him very relatable and I did like him very much! If there was such a thing as a twin flame, he'd probably be one of mine I'd bet! That's how intense it felt for me at least.

But even so, destiny pulls us in all kinds of directions and there are so many experiences to be had whether it works out with one person or not!

Also, he changed drastically after we broke up as well and I didn't like him as much either. (He was getting more egotistical, and on a mission to prove something to everybody else) I don't know, he might've just been amping it up in front of me though it's hard to tell...

But there was a point where I messed up (after the weird attitude adjustment on his end) and I just felt empty and I was in thoughtless reaction mode and I was a real fool and I lost my friend for it!


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Re: Crush

Postby Dragona » Sun Dec 01, 2019 8:12 pm

I can see why you want to apologize and that is a good thing but, no one can make someone else accept an apology. It may be hard for you because you have that feeling, that urge to do so but it may be time to move forward and fill your time and heart with other things that would make you feel happy and fulfilled.
My circumstances are very different than yours and there are things I wish didn't happpen and people I wish didn't get hurt but I take things like that as a life lesson but also, there are releasing spells that can be done or cutting cord spells that may give you some help along your way if you decide to do something like that.



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Re: Crush

Postby Ferro » Sun Dec 01, 2019 8:30 pm

AlexCzernosech wrote:If it helps, you can try a 'cord cutting'. Basically, a small ritual using a cord or ribbon to represent the connection you have. Visualize the cord/ribbon taking on the energy of your connection, and use scissors or a knife to cut the cord in half, also energetically severing the connection. You can then either just throw the cord pieces away, or burn them and bury the ashes if it feels right to you.


How exactly does that work? Does it only terminate the romantic and sexual feelings, or does it sever every connection that is between you? And does it work both ways, or just from my point? In my case I could use it, but I just want to get rid of my outdated feelings, but stay friends. I don't want to "cut" the person out of my life entirely. (By some twists of fate she has become a part of my family...) \:*
And will the person know about it, if she practices with her energy? (I don't believe she does actual magic, but she does a lot of energy work, chakras, meditations etc.)


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Re: Crush

Postby AlexCzernosech » Sun Dec 01, 2019 9:09 pm

Ferro wrote:How exactly does that work? Does it only terminate the romantic and sexual feelings, or does it sever every connection that is between you? And does it work both ways, or just from my point? In my case I could use it, but I just want to get rid of my outdated feelings, but stay friends. I don't want to "cut" the person out of my life entirely. (By some twists of fate she has become a part of my family...) \:*
And will the person know about it, if she practices with her energy? (I don't believe she does actual magic, but she does a lot of energy work, chakras, meditations etc.)


As I've used it, it severs all connections both ways; ideally it's meant to get rid of loose ends, quite literally, and prevent excess energy from being put toward that relationship. Tends to be an energetic leak that some people overlook. I'm sure you could focus on only severing the aspects that you wish to cut out, but there may be other spells that would be better suited, as well. Depends on how flexible you are with focusing your intent and adapting spells to what you need. She may notice if she's particularly energy sensitive, but can't say for sure.




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