Wow, was gone for most of the day, and I come back and see this!!!!
Magnolia did state that in an open form like this, you will have all kinds of people, people who are dealing with all kinds of things in their own life as well!!!! Nothing is not going to be perfect!!!!
Also because CH is such a big form as well, you have got to realize that there will be a great many different experiences and there will be a great many different opinions on each and every subject here, and not everyone is going to agree with everything that is said, and yes, people may get offended by that, even if it wasn't made to be that way in the first place!!!!
Like it or not, there will be times when there will be stress, disagreements and debates that will get out of hand, and also there are many people here, who come from all walks of life, and who practice things that you will not agree with at all!!!! That being the case, is where you have to learn tact, and understanding, and realize that they do have a right to their own experiences, and their own ideas and feelings, and to walk their own path, whether it is WA, DA, or BA. It is their choice and not yours to change
You can voice what you feel, but with respect, even if it does get heated, it can still be done with respect for the other person's feelings and what they have experienced, since it is theirs in the first place!!!! I cannot not tell someone they are wrong, because I don't know them personally, I may say I don't like what they have done or not done, but still it is their experience and not mine!!!
I may question what they did, or not do, and ask why, so I can read what their reasons were for doing what they did, and I may say well I don't agree with them, but I am not going to make them feel bad and attack them personally for that, because that is not for me to do!!!! Some people have to make mistakes in order to learn that maybe there is a better way to do things!!!!
However it is not my place to say that they are a bad person for doing something that I wouldn't have done!!!! People don't like being told that they are wrong, even when they are, however with some tact and a little bit of respect and a little dash of kindness, you can express yourself about how you feel and why, and leave it at that, because if you don't, you will not be doing the other person any favors by saying that they are wrong and what they did was awful, and that they are a bad person!!!
The reason being is that no one likes to be attacked in that fashion, sure maybe what they did was totally wrong, but are you going to change anything by saying they were wrong? They may not listen to what you say in the first place!!!!
I would just state okay, I didn't like how you did that, and if it was me, I would have done things differently, and leave it at that, so no fighting, making another person feel really bad, and hurting each other's feelings, because that is all you will do is hurt another's feelings, and maybe they won't come back, or be afraid to post again.
Yes there will be some really nasty things that you will come across, however you can state how you feel about it, in a calm manner, then leave it at that!!!!
I hope this makes sense, and also just for the record, I am not bashing or putting anyone down, because everyone does have a right to their own opinions and be able to express themselves, without all the drama, however remember emotions can run high in this form, as people will express exactly how they feel, whether we like it or not!!!!
Also this is my own thoughts and it is not directed at anyone person, I am just stating what I feel, and from past experience
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