Lionox wrote:

ninjalovergirl wrote:

Lionox wrote:

ninjalovergirl wrote:So I have been able to dig up some posts now on what has been happening, I still don't know properly, but I see that a lot of horrible stuff has happened.
I can see why people are acting timid and stressed out. At least, the ones who know about it. The other side is acting timid and stressed out because they don't understand the harshness of the forum.
I think, if people do understand more and stick together instead of acting that way towards each other, it will help.

Care to explain what you are talking about here and what is the purpose of "digging up" heated topics?

Knowledge, caring, understanding so I can do something to help others, actually.
Trying to help out because I care for CH. When I understand what has been happening, I can do more to help out. As the vile treatment of myself and others is intolerable right now. I don't think you could even come up with an argument against what I am trying to do, make the place kinder, not take away other peoples opinions. Otherwise I wouldn't be able to say anything, it would be even less actually, along with everyone else. I am trying to get people to get together, a community feel. With that, people will lash out less, not stop their opinions. It will still be the same thing, just more civil, and less people scared to say them.

I think you have stating your opinions in a civil manner mixed up with lasing out at others for their own opinions that do not sit well with you.

No wonder I have to be on guard. I never stated, EVER, that I want to stop peoples opinions. I am basically saying, be mature when other people have an opposing opinion you do not like. That also goes for me as well. It cannot always happen, but if people really tired to understand and tolerate, it will help stop it happening so often. As such, I really don't see your point in being against this idea. I am not for shutting people up, or for less tolerance. It's for more, actually.

Enough with the bullying please. Do you even care if CH and the members are in a mess right now? Or do you just want to continue this type of behavior? Do you even see what I am trying to do? I can't believe that the CH members themselves are actually partaking in stuff like this, it's so trivial, it's immature.

I am trying to show CH and every member in it Exactly what is going on with the members themselves here. Taking it out on each other. I don't want to be here any more if people won't even try to better themselves and this forum, and just want to continue lashing out at each other. Do you even care at all for anything I said? All the positive things I said that can help others? And yes, I know it was bad before, but it isn't over, and people are mean on here now. This is a problem.

It's like you just want to criticize me for no reason.
I have a load of tolerance. But when it comes to the lashing out of others and the misunderstandings, the people who are scared to say something as others say something mean, etc, I do not tolerate it as it is not acceptable for people to hurt others in this way. Unless, of course, you are all for the harming of others, you will see a plus in this cause that I am trying to get across. Stuff happens, but it shouldn't happen this often.

I do not dislike you, but you are also making it hard for me to really like you when again, you are being very demeaning to me. I just prefer not to hate people, I not interested in it. I prefer to like them.

LOL.

Well done. Thank you for proving to me that this entire topic of yours was made because you didn't like a topic of mine.

Anyway, on to your outrageous response to me:

In ONE response, you managed to:

1) Accuse me of "arguing AGAINST what you are trying to do" - Can you please look for exactly where I stated this in any of my posts here? :daze:

2) Accused me of "lashing out at others for their own opinions that do not sit well with me" - Again, this is personal, you're upset with me and for that topic and thus YOU are now lashing out at ME; when you say this, you mean "I refuse to see that your topic was made out of silliness and fun and nothing more, and won't see it any other way, and the fact that you won't see it MY WAY is "lashing out" in my eyes ".

3) Please kindly refer to where exactly I said that "you wanted to stop people's opinions"? :wtf:

4) You called me a "bully"... seriously? For asking you to clarify what you were talking about? Or for making sure that you weren't creating this topic purely because you were upset with me?

I think your entire response to me summoned up what you are wanting CH to stop doing.

Lionox wrote:

ninjalovergirl wrote: Oh, so you are not against what I am trying to do then. Just against me. Good. And I think you used sarcasm in you post? Directly at me? :thumbup:
Not against you. I simply felt that if you still had issues about that topic of mine, you didn't need to make this entire one to say so. IF you being upset with my topic, was not the MAIN reason you started this topic, then I have no problem.

Do we really have to continue with this? I thought I already stated I meant to cause no insults or harm by what I said in your thread.
And you got it wrong again. I said it I find it horrible, so I didn't laugh. YOU started to hate me for it. Last time I checked, I never said you couldn't like the thread, have the thread or laugh at it. I just stated my opinion that it wasn't funny to me, and you decided to be demeaning to me, again.
Hmm. I did not read your last comment on that topic. So, it seems you understood things better.

I wasn't "hating" on you. I got upset because I felt like you were pushing your opinion too strongly on another member when you'd already made it clear how you felt about things, and that is what upset me (to explain so we understand one another on where we were coming from)

I wasn't saying it was wrong for you to do that, I was just making CONVERSATION and since I couldn't laugh at it, I replied back to how I felt. I thought it brought up something interesting and was willing to converse.
Also, I got something you said wrong. I thought you meant something different, so I started talking about it, but you knew I got it wrong, it was something completely different, and you didn't even bother to correct me and inform me that I misunderstood you, and decided to think that I was attacking you, when I was never. Ever. I was actually just discussing it. I thought we were having a nice discussion, until you got horrible with me. But you hated that the thread turned out like that, so I guess i shouldn't have even said my opinion, which wasn't even bad. I was never horrible or demeaning to you, or was fighting you because you liked it. I was just saying how I feel myself personally, since I couldn't laugh at it, and it brought up a very interesting conversation. You were the one who started getting horrible to me, because you didn't like my opinion, and wanted it gone off the thread, as well as me. I was actually just making convo. Really I was. I have nothing against you. But I hate the way you are treating me. I was not being mean to you or anyone, or even to the topic at hand. You were the one who started throwing insults. I tried to be civil with you. Even until the last post I made. Which I laughed at myself because I got something totally wrong and apologized.

I would have appreciated your opinions a lot more, if you'd perhaps mentioned something to the effect of "I understand the funny side, but just to speak on a more serious note". Something like that, being mentioned by you, would have made your posts feel a lot less like "OMG you guys are SO WRONG for laughing!". I hope that makes sense? I'm genuinely just trying to explain things now so we can move on from it.

As for "insulting you" on that topic, perhaps you misunderstood me. By no means did I refer to you personally by any insulting name or term. I didn't like seeing my friends bashed for wanting to see the "lighter side" of something and just have a laugh about it. I FELT like you were bashing them for it, so if you DID NOT MEAN TO, then I accept that, I truly do, but I am just saying that is how it looked and felt to me.


And because of that, you now seem to have something against me and thinking that this is all because of you. No, this is not because of you, but it doesn't help. You don't like me or what I said when I intended no harm to you or your opinions, or even your thread. I actually already said that type of thing many times in your thread. But you still say this. You are not listening to me. I actually apologized more than once and tried to ignore the hate comments you made.

I have nothing against you. I just wanted to be sure, as I said already, that my own topic was not the MAIN reason for you writing this one up. Again, if it is not, then I am fine with that. You keep saying "hate" and "hate comments". I made no "hate comments". I was looking out for people I care about and standing up for my own right to laugh at something not meant to be offensive (and I told you in that topic, I apologise if it did offend you).

OKAY. I think we have made it clear how we both felt. I'm happy to move on from it if you are? I hold no grudges. Shall we both forget it and move past it now? I actually DO hope to get into pleasant discussions with you in future.

Please just stop this and get over the fact that I accidentally ruined your thread. I didn't mean to cause any harm, or even take your opinions away. I just wanted to say my own and have a discussion on it. I wasn't hating anything in that thread.

Do you even care if CH and the members are in a mess right now? Or do you just want to continue this type of behavior? Do you even see what I am trying to do? I can't believe that the CH members themselves are actually partaking in stuff like this, it's so trivial, it's immature.

creepyhollows wrote:

so, i am the anti social aunt who mutters to herself and sometimes will come to family gatherings once in a while..I guess?

We'll only start to worry if you wear funny hats, & hoarding cats with silly names