Hon, I can't really tell you what you should or shouldn't do but I can share my experiences with you and hope that in there somewhere, you can find what works for you and what doesn't; because this is your journey; your experiences and even with those who've had similar experiences; they are not you, so what works from them may not work for you and certainly not in the same way
I've felt ostracized many times in the past for a number of reasons... mostly it had nothing at all to do with me but with them. Having aspergers and being a nice person; in the past that would give others the idea that because of my differences it was okay to blame me
the truth is; who I was and what I've done had nothing to do with it; it wasn't me; it was the company I kept; people who thought it was their place to be cruel, hurtful and make me feel there was something wrong with me; and for a really long time; it worked . I truly believed there was something wrong with me ... back then but not now
I decided one day, long ago, that I no longer wanted to be subjected to any hurts I felt around certain people; so I decided to change the scenery around (and within) me, by deliberately choosing the company I keep; tossing out opinions that didn't work for me and embracing the ones that did. I began keeping a journal of all my positive traits and stopped focusing on what others thought of me and/or gossiped regarding me; I simply no longer cared if they were gossiping or not; some people just need to hear themselves speak and I knew that was their problem not mine so I stopped paying any attention to it. If someone was to come around and say something like... have you heard what so and so said about you; I'd say no, i'm not interested in knowing either. I have a reputation now that I do not put any focus in gossip; if someone started telling me about someone else; I'd politely tell them I'm not interested in any gossip but if they are having issues with someone else they should talk to that person about it and now the only conversations we have (even with known gossipers) are positive ones, they keep their opinions to themselves and we all get along great
There is more to standing up for oneself then arguing or trying to set the record straight; the people we are trying to set straight may not even care of they are wrong or right; they simply just want you to think they are (in most cases); perhaps just quietly observing and... reserving our own personal opinions or need to set thing right; will work better for you as it has with me. I began recognizing the attachments to specific outcomes I was (inadvertently) allowing to shape my life and it often left me going without and perhaps this is something you may be experiencing as well.
I let go of this need to be always right though most of the time I was, I began to filter what thoughts, actions and beliefs others had and what didn't work, i threw it in the ego recycle bin and what did work, I put it into my higher self folder for greater learning. I changed who I was on the inside and began to care less about what was taking place outside; i knew much of the time I couldn't do anything to change it anyway so why let it be my point of constant attraction(?) Change begins within not without and love only grows strongest when we love ourselves not when we do all we can for others to love (and accept) us; we will never meet the expectations anyone else may have of us so why bother trying to live up to them... It only made me feel worse in the long, rejected and in more pain than I ever should have been going through and it was my point of attraction that made my life that way; if I wanted that to change; I had to change, I had to put my point of attraction in another direction and I had to embrace me, not what others thought of me, and know I was just as worthy as anyone else to live my life with joy and how I saw fit; we can't please everyone and thank goodness we can't
I chose to pick my friends carefully and if interactions with something or someone doesn't feel good, I walk away and I deliberately choose to let go because wrong or right, the only way it could affect me is if I allowed it to
Three affirmations I began reciting whenever emotional attachments were present are:
"I am safe in the universe; all life loves and supports me"
"I am detached and open to divine guidance"
"I let go... I let God!"
You can pick and choose what you put your focus on, on a regular basis; you can choose to walk away and let all the hurt and confusion go and while we all can choose a more positive healthy route we can also choose to remain on the negativity path... we can choose to believe we are going to fail or there's something wrong with us or we can choose to believe we are successes in our life and on our own point of attractions and believe we are winners regardless of what others may think of us as individuals and either way, you would be right because this really is about that which we choose to put all our focus and energy into; if we want change then it is up to us to change it not anyone else; we can never change anyone else
Choose your perspective and you are choosing the path you will walk everyday; it is never too late to choose a different path by choosing different thoughts and beliefs.
For me that was the greatest, most awesome, realization I ever made in my life and the work I've done since then (even when it seemed too difficult) is what has helped me in every aspect of my life, especially in the areas of being an empath and HSP
I hope this helps...