Yes i assumed it could be that, thanks for confirming me. So Annabelle = egocentric, rude, aggressive and self sufficient being who refuses people on cold ways and gives no second chance?Lewk wrote:Annabelle wrote: Hi Annabelle 1ak
The quote above that I gave is taken from Wikipedia.
Here is a quote from Scott Jeffrey's webpage which is about Shadow Work. It gives a very good example...I hope you find it useful.
"What Happens When You Repress Your Shadow
So what happens to all the parts of ourselves we sweep out of view?
Whatever qualities we deny in ourselves, we see in others.
In psychology, this is called projection. We project onto others anything we bury within us.
If, for example, you get irritated when someone is rude to you, it’s a good bet you haven’t owned your own rudeness.
This doesn’t mean the person isn’t being rude to you. However, if rudeness wasn’t in your shadow self, someone else’s rudeness wouldn’t bother you so much.
This process doesn’t happen consciously. We aren’t aware of our projections.
Our egos use this mechanism to defend itself—to defend how it perceives itself. Our false identities of being “good” keep us from connecting to our shadow.
These psychological projections distort reality, creating a thick boundary between how we view ourselves and how we behave in reality."
On Scott Jeffrey's website there is a quote from Robert Johnson, who is another person that wrote about shadow work. He said:
"Unless we do conscious work on it, the shadow is almost always projected: that is, it is neatly laid on someone or something else so we do not have to take resposibility for it."
Does that make sense to you in any way Annabelle?
Naughty! Who still likes me after reading this? 2wk
Well sometimes i am like that yes, but not always and not to cool people. I didn't mention that my parents who were punishing me on rude ways had pretty hard work with educating me, because i always tended to be free minded and even dominant a bit, and well - i like attention, i definitely like it!
So time to think at that way and maybe to transform this darkness into something more useful, to me and to others. Maybe it helps!
Why i am saying "maybe"...
Because now i have further question: what if projection of our shadow self isn't only way how this thing works? For example, my mother hates liars. She is ready to kill someone who lies to her! Or at least to forget him for the eternity. 1s But she is well known by her honest nature. I never saw her lie to people. Nobody from family ever saw it. And i am sure she hasn't secret agenda because i know her 34 years for now.
What if sometimes hatred toward other people comes just from our moral code and only moral code we built in ourselves during the life?
Or is it also "fake" moral code, and projection of our shadow we amazingly successfully try to hide whole life?