Hi RavenConspiracy
I fully echo others' support. When I have stood up for myself then been bullied and misrepresented to others about something important about me, those have been among the lowest points in my life.
Obviously these people should not have treated you this way.
I'm also trained in conflict resolution techniques, including forms of non-violent communication. I help people with disputes and conflict resolution week in week out on a voluntary basis. I think if someone has some of these techniques to fall back on, you can basically try - very, very carefully and considerately - to express your views clearly and at the same time respond proactively to others in an empathic way, which has the best chance of reducing or resolving some of the conflict.
It's not about abandoning your views or needs, but about an effective way to express them in a conflict situation. It's also not about having to be nice to your enemies, or abandoning your anger, but more about transforming the situation into one you can live with, while expressing your position clearly to the other side.
People we are in conflict with tend to be reacting in instinctive ways - the fight, flight, or freeze responses that are thought to be hard wired into us. And they can tilt us into the same kind of interaction. A useful tool to have is to be able use 'I' statements to express your needs in a way that doesn't trigger further conflict.
A good way into that is the Verbal Aikido technique see
http://www.verbal-aikido.com/articles-a ... ree-steps/
http://www.verbal-aikido.com/articles-and-exercises/
Some people are very practised at fighting as a strategy. Others may prefer to remove themselves from the situation. I have often been the third type that freezes and hopes no none will notice them and it will all go away. (I'm not very practised at the fighting way of coping with disagreements.)
Basically most of us are not born with communication skills that allow us to express our views clearly and in non-antagonistic way. It is a skill that can be learned however.
I have successfully used the Verbal Aikido technique to defuse and transform a longstanding conflict with my neighbour, in the source of just one conversation. These techniques are not guaranteed but they may often help - and I think they put a useful distance between you and the person you're in conflict with.
But it may not be for everyone.
2019 - It's about getting serious for Spirit Keepers
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Sorry - I just posted to the wrong thread - and the delate and edit buttons aren't showing. I'll repost there bit if a Mod sees this can the above post of mine be deleted?
You must stay on the path. Do not leave it.
If you do, you'll never...
find it again.
No matter what may come, stay on...
the path! [Gandalf, in The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug]
If you do, you'll never...
find it again.
No matter what may come, stay on...
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What's the update on this?creepyhollows wrote:We will be posting further information on this by the end of the month, so look for the thread & announcement via newsletter.
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I heard this term "Spirit of Vase" a year ago and I had doubts because the values were always high and the information was not enlightening, in this forum I can not read everything, I want to read and will read, although it took a long time to arrive Here I intend to collaborate and you can count on me, because happy here I am, thanks to the administrators and other members who teach.
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I just want to say I'm new to the site and spirit keeping and everything that goes along with it. That I appreciate everything that the community has done to help educate others and myself.
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Where's the goods?
"The first step towards change is acceptance. Once you accept yourself, you open the door to change. That's all you have to do. Change is not something that you do, it's what you allow." - Will Garcia
Literally so many spirits and entities now, even after I said I would not get anymore. But definitely under 200. May it stay that way
Literally so many spirits and entities now, even after I said I would not get anymore. But definitely under 200. May it stay that way
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I think it's the "Advanced" section of the forum.Opelia Rendon wrote:Where's the goods?
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This should be a sticky thread. Front and center for all to see.
I may be new here, but I, and mine, will stand with you. With you all. And with anyone that is bullied, bashed, mistreated, downtrodden, etc.
Not enough people in this world that have that mindset.
If anger and fear can be contagious, strength and understanding can be as well
I may be new here, but I, and mine, will stand with you. With you all. And with anyone that is bullied, bashed, mistreated, downtrodden, etc.
Not enough people in this world that have that mindset.
If anger and fear can be contagious, strength and understanding can be as well
Do nothing that is of no use.
-Miyamoto Musashi, The Book of the Five Rings-
Why waste magick on something you could easily achieve through time, effort and dedication?
Beware the noobsauce (take with salt)
-Miyamoto Musashi, The Book of the Five Rings-
Why waste magick on something you could easily achieve through time, effort and dedication?
Beware the noobsauce (take with salt)
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Such an inspiring and powerful post...I couldn't agree more. Also, just how the words were written and the support and strength in those words shows true leadership.
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Thank you very much for bringing this up. I strongly agree about this. I am more than willing to do my part and I will do everything I can to give a great contribution to this community.
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