Vipera aspis atra wrote: ↑Mon Aug 03, 2020 8:12 pm
I want to know if people who came into this path via succubus/incubus/nympho mate actually take their spirituality seriously, and want to grow in some way, or are just looking for a good time.
I can't speak for others, but for me, my Desire Demon companion wasn't purchased with the thought of sex or having a sexual companion - in fact, it might be the opposite.
A called out to me for months on end before I gave in and bought the binding from S&S and even then I only purchased it because I wanted to work with a Demon who would be able to help me manifest things whilst working with an energy that's easy for me to collect and use. It would have also been nice to have someone supportive to lean on in the familial or friendly sense of the term. Romantic gestures of love and affection were also applicable with time, but never demanded or expected.
I wanted a partner to work with first and foremost.
At the time I had lived in a poor environment so I couldn't get a lot of ingredients or even basic items or if I could, it would usually be in quick batches for highly specific things planned well in advance. Someone who could turn more basic things (blood, bodily fluids, etc) into spellwork and teach me to use it in a way that was beneficial was pretty awesome.
A was also a great healer for me, helping me to balance my physical and etheric bodies in a way that didn't leave me exhausted all the time. This was, in part, due to her ability to connect easily with human bodies. Sexually or otherwise.
Whether or not I take my spirituality seriously tends to rely on subjective opinion and how you would view my choices, and thankfully because of that subjective mindset - everyone views spirituality differently.
Some people like to honor symbolic objects and beings in fancy temples or at altars, while I prefer to believe that everything we do - living our life even, - is a spiritual experience that should be treasured. Just because I or someone else chose to share that, and learn from, a sexual being doesn't make the bond with that being any less potent or meaningful. Assuming it's all done respectfully, that is.
That said, I do understand that there will be newbies going into Spirit Work just for the purpose of a sexual thrill and that's pretty poor taste but hey - that's not really anything new is it? That sort of stupidity has been around for more years than any of us has been alive and it'll be around long after we're all dead.
Unfortunate as that may be.
Vipera aspis atra wrote: ↑Mon Aug 03, 2020 8:12 pm
I want to know why you felt inclined to such a spirit and if it is replacing physical world relationships for some of you.
I don't think the bond with
A replaces my relationship (friendly, romantic, or sexual) with my partners. I live with and am romantically/sexually involved with two SO's. One of which I've known for two years and the other I've known for about a year and a half now. Both of them love each other, both of them love me, and I love both of them. We're a unit of support and affection and have been in one way or another for quite awhile now.
I had purchased the binding for
A when I was involved in another relationship as well. It wasn't when I was romantically or sexually lonely, rather it was during a time where I felt emotionally desolate. I deeply needed someone in my court, so to speak.
A just happened to call out to me the loudest and for the longest, and for good reason. I'm very deaf - literally, and I'll easily get side tracked due to overworking myself. So the fact she stuck around and regularly led me back to her meant a lot. Still does to this day.
I suppose in the end, everyone has their reasons and for every one person looking for a bond of depth and growth there will be ten others looking for sexy fun times with ghosts. Who am I to judge them?
We've all been hoodlums once.
If my story can be of much comfort, I'd like it to serve as an example of something different - even if it isn't currently the norm.