Lewk wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 1:17 am Apparently, if we just get rid of our anxiety or uncertainty and give ourselves some credit, things will most likely go better for us with this kind of thing.

PyroAnt wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 2:36 am

Lewk wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 1:17 am Apparently, if we just get rid of our anxiety or uncertainty and give ourselves some credit, things will most likely go better for us with this kind of thing.

Thanks for your reply. Is it just that simple? I overthink nearly everything I do.

Vipera aspis atra wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:48 pm You've got to figure out why you don't feel confident, which can take some work -- and while this can be overstated: SHADOW WORK. You're suppressing your ability to advance communication out of feelings like embarrassment, guilt or shame, etc. You don't feel free to be yourself even with those you would be considering family/friends (the spirits). You are saying you are concerned about acting foolish which makes this even clearer to me.

The tough thing here is that your anxiety is not specific to spirit-keeping, but a general issue and so you're going to have to decide whether you want to separate the two groups (bonding with spirits vs. the outside world), or whether you want to tackle your social anxiety as a whole. I can tell you that if you get into shadow work you'll be looking at the issue as a whole, it just has a more spiritual inclination - though borders on what you'd expect of therapy (are you in therapy?)

Keep in mind the spirits for the most part don't experience you the way you experience yourself. They probably aren't paying attention to slip-ups you might make or if you're blushing or whatever causes you to feel embarrassment. In fact they can see things you've never noticed about you for better or worse.
The way they see you can be reflected in what you know about them. If they've mentioned why they have come to you in either notes or direct communication, if they have a certain nature or personality about them, you can learn from that more about yourself --both in what you are lacking and what you already are. To get a new perspective of self can really improve your confidence or give you a place to start.

Vipera aspis atra wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:48 pm You've got to figure out why you don't feel confident, which can take some work -- and while this can be overstated: SHADOW WORK. You're suppressing your ability to advance communication out of feelings like embarrassment, guilt or shame, etc. You don't feel free to be yourself even with those you would be considering family/friends (the spirits). You are saying you are concerned about acting foolish which makes this even clearer to me.

The tough thing here is that your anxiety is not specific to spirit-keeping, but a general issue and so you're going to have to decide whether you want to separate the two groups (bonding with spirits vs. the outside world), or whether you want to tackle your social anxiety as a whole. I can tell you that if you get into shadow work you'll be looking at the issue as a whole, it just has a more spiritual inclination - though borders on what you'd expect of therapy (are you in therapy?)

Keep in mind the spirits for the most part don't experience you the way you experience yourself. They probably aren't paying attention to slip-ups you might make or if you're blushing or whatever causes you to feel embarrassment. In fact they can see things you've never noticed about you for better or worse.
The way they see you can be reflected in what you know about them. If they've mentioned why they have come to you in either notes or direct communication, if they have a certain nature or personality about them, you can learn from that more about yourself --both in what you are lacking and what you already are. To get a new perspective of self can really improve your confidence or give you a place to start.

Vipera aspis atra wrote: ↑Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:48 pm You've got to figure out why you don't feel confident, which can take some work -- and while this can be overstated: SHADOW WORK. You're suppressing your ability to advance communication out of feelings like embarrassment, guilt or shame, etc. You don't feel free to be yourself even with those you would be considering family/friends (the spirits). You are saying you are concerned about acting foolish which makes this even clearer to me.

The tough thing here is that your anxiety is not specific to spirit-keeping, but a general issue and so you're going to have to decide whether you want to separate the two groups (bonding with spirits vs. the outside world), or whether you want to tackle your social anxiety as a whole. I can tell you that if you get into shadow work you'll be looking at the issue as a whole, it just has a more spiritual inclination - though borders on what you'd expect of therapy (are you in therapy?)

Keep in mind the spirits for the most part don't experience you the way you experience yourself. They probably aren't paying attention to slip-ups you might make or if you're blushing or whatever causes you to feel embarrassment. In fact they can see things you've never noticed about you for better or worse.
The way they see you can be reflected in what you know about them. If they've mentioned why they have come to you in either notes or direct communication, if they have a certain nature or personality about them, you can learn from that more about yourself --both in what you are lacking and what you already are. To get a new perspective of self can really improve your confidence or give you a place to start.

PyroAnt wrote: ↑Fri Dec 09, 2022 11:17 pm]
Do you think my companions will mind if I take a break from them so I can get myself together? How can I do that? I have asked them before but I either contact them way too much and find it a habit or they say they don't want to leave.