Spirit Keeping & Paranormal Collecting Forum

Lom'ae wrote: ↑Tue Aug 08, 2023 9:05 am Regarding that of tasking, I sat down with a number of my spirits (in particular), and took time to really understand some of their thoughts around tasking. While the majority seemed curious or eager, there was one in particular who did not wish for this responsibility. They seemed content to just hang around and be a literal free spirit.

Has anyone else run in to this? I'm not at all fussed about it, as I encourage all in my keep to be authentically who they are and to prioritize being friend and family first, as opposed to feeling like they are obligated to do things for me. Only if it brings them fulfilment to do so.

Additionally, this one that was not interested in tasking is both bloodline and Cambion. My morbid curiosity mulls over whether or not such a background might prove influential to this, but alas, I simultaneously think not.

Curiosities on my part, more than anything.

Sysygy wrote: ↑Tue Aug 08, 2023 6:59 pm My approach to tasking is a bit different than most. I don't "task" ... Instead I make clear, precise requests, and show gratitude to any who step up to participate . I do it this way (just a personal preference , not judging at all )only because it feels more respectful , and I view my companions as friends and family. This way, no one feels forced or obligated to do something on my behalf. They are also free to leave any time they wish, as I do not own them. They are my friends.
It goes like this.
'I have this goal in mind, here are the details ____. Who wishes to be a part of this?'
Usually most(sometimes all) of them step forward . Then we talk further about the details. They usually tell me what they would excel at and then place their position accordingly. If I disagree with what they offer, we always communicate and find a better way, until it's all agreed and decided upon. I find that this way leads to a wayyy smoother cooperation , and a strong outcome. Because everyone is doing it the way they are comfortable with, and choosing to use skills they know they are good at. That way, we are actually working together. We also have the bonus of getting to know each other deeper, instead of me just sending them away to perform robotic duties. They also gain a better understanding of what I'm comfortable with.

There are some companions of mine who prefer one on one meetings and don't like to chat/perform work in social settings. My phantom vampire is this way. So during my large group meetings I skip over their name when calling, though they know they are always welcome to join in. He usually comes to me when he is feeling like it.
This approach has helped me to bond even deeper with my companions, and I notice a more potent eagerness on their part, to manifest things in my life. It also allows their magic to unfold naturally in my life, without any demands /expectations getting in the way.

I have a few human ancestors who , though they are fine being in a keep with very dark 'creepies' (their description lol) they tend to stay to themselves or closely by my side, and I rarely see them joining them for social wine hang outs, or group events. When I give requests to these human ancestors, I tend to avoid placing them together with the creepies, just out of respect. Some of them are here just to be a part of my family as well, and have no interest in magic or vampirism. So I don't expect it of them.

My Korean past life companion (he was my brother) who I don't 'task'...He stays in the family and does as he pleases. He is soft and quiet, sometimes shy, and prefers to talk about life over anything else. Though he is strong, he is also squirrelly around a few of my darker creepies, and prefers lighter energies, so I keep this in mind when making any requests. He's the type to jump onto the table to avoid a spider running across the floor...lol

Sysygy wrote: ↑Tue Aug 08, 2023 6:59 pm My approach to tasking is a bit different than most. I don't "task" ... Instead I make clear, precise requests, and show gratitude to any who step up to participate . I do it this way (just a personal preference , not judging at all )only because it feels more respectful , and I view my companions as friends and family. This way, no one feels forced or obligated to do something on my behalf. They are also free to leave any time they wish, as I do not own them. They are my friends.
It goes like this.
'I have this goal in mind, here are the details ____. Who wishes to be a part of this?'
Usually most(sometimes all) of them step forward . Then we talk further about the details. They usually tell me what they would excel at and then place their position accordingly. If I disagree with what they offer, we always communicate and find a better way, until it's all agreed and decided upon. I find that this way leads to a wayyy smoother cooperation , and a strong outcome. Because everyone is doing it the way they are comfortable with, and choosing to use skills they know they are good at. That way, we are actually working together. We also have the bonus of getting to know each other deeper, instead of me just sending them away to perform robotic duties. They also gain a better understanding of what I'm comfortable with.

There are some companions of mine who prefer one on one meetings and don't like to chat/perform work in social settings. My phantom vampire is this way. So during my large group meetings I skip over their name when calling, though they know they are always welcome to join in. He usually comes to me when he is feeling like it.
This approach has helped me to bond even deeper with my companions, and I notice a more potent eagerness on their part, to manifest things in my life. It also allows their magic to unfold naturally in my life, without any demands /expectations getting in the way.

I have a few human ancestors who , though they are fine being in a keep with very dark 'creepies' (their description lol) they tend to stay to themselves or closely by my side, and I rarely see them joining them for social wine hang outs, or group events. When I give requests to these human ancestors, I tend to avoid placing them together with the creepies, just out of respect. Some of them are here just to be a part of my family as well, and have no interest in magic or vampirism. So I don't expect it of them.

My Korean past life companion (he was my brother) who I don't 'task'...He stays in the family and does as he pleases. He is soft and quiet, sometimes shy, and prefers to talk about life over anything else. Though he is strong, he is also squirrelly around a few of my darker creepies, and prefers lighter energies, so I keep this in mind when making any requests. He's the type to jump onto the table to avoid a spider running across the floor...lol