Spirit Marriage

[mcm442]

I am married to my Sanguine Vampire Entity P. by Billy from paganshoponline, this commitment also is made not only for this life but the afterlife, too.

Was you S Vampire from Billy? I was wondering if he only did it with entities he offers.

[Tarvos]

@StarofHope Spirit marriage is a complex topic. People involved prefer to keep it private for many reasons. Their commitment is between them and their entity or spirit. Therefore, I find it hard to trust those who write openly about it or publish books on the subject. Like come on. We can write a bit here and there to show our joy about marriage with our companion. But to write explicitly about it is a very different thing. I don't trust that.

If you consider marriage out of fear, I advise against it. Marriage should be rooted in love and commitment, not fear.

We have companions who follow us through many lifetimes. Even when there were no formal marriages or bindings, they still followed you. You don’t need a ceremony or anything to have that kind of commitment.

I won’t delve too deeply into this since it's a completely different subject. The Universe maintains a balance that must be respected. What you carry into the future will significantly impact that future. And not in a good way. So, sleep on it and think it over.

A spirit marriage resembles something similar to the current binding you share with your companion. Aka it operates based on mutual agreement. If both parties decide to maintain that bond for 30 lifetimes, for example, that bond will be guaranteed through 30 lifetimes. However, there's no guarantee that your companion will be with you in those 30 future lifetimes. The existence of the bond does not ensure continuity.

This is a serious commitment. It should not be treated like a tool as you deemed it so. This bond is based on love, not fear. It's important to discuss it in detail with your companion. I think you don't fully understand what it entails. It's natural to want to maintain a strong connection with an entity/spirit you love, but you shouldn't rush into this decision.

It's a huge misconception that a spirit marriage is a tool to grant paranormal abilities. If ten people enter into spirit marriages, each will have a unique binding contract. These contracts can vary greatly depending on the individual relationships. Simply being in a spirit marriage does not guarantee any special abilities. Remember that this is just a binding agreement. While any practitioner can facilitate these marriages, not all choose to do so, and they have valid reasons for their decisions. Mostly and sadly because of the human side. Lol.

You've mentioned that your mental health was declining. It's concerning that you are considering this marriage out of fear. I encourage you to take some time to reflect on this.

[StarofHope]

@Tarvos My companion has been trying to make me understand this and I was blissfully living in the lie that there are such guarantees because I have a really hard time accepting the truth. "You want guarantees when there are none." He tells me. Even if he is willing to do anything for me, I still don't want to make the wrong choice. He suggested we wait this entire year to make any decisions because I really need to take care of my physical and mental health first. I am an impatient person and want things to resolve right away if I feel stressed about something, I just rush into things without thinking and deal with it along the way. "Things will resolve if you give it time." He tells me. Collecting other options over the year and really thinking about it/discussing it is a better plan than my impulsiveness. Spirit marriage isn't a suitable binding for our situation and I do realize that and I also disregarded the true meaning and seriousness of it and that's when bad things happen, because of poor decision making. Something happened at the end of 2024, i don't know what it was but suddenly I wanted to try doing things differently, this situation is definitely one that I can pursue differently than I usually would.

[Keriix Lunaria]

I can’t offer you anything except my own story with my Demon Hubby A who has followed me through multiple lifetimes based on his sheer willpower and determination to have me in his life no matter what. It does help that he’s kinda obsessed and ‘yandere’ lol it only works because I don’t hate that kind of expression of love, but that doesn’t take away from his actual love for me.

Bonds are only able to exist because there is effort being put in to maintain the bond There are no guarantees in a connection lasting, only trust and faith. I can understand your fear in not wanting to lose this amazing bond you have with him. Place your faith and trust in this connection you both have, and when you come to a better space in your mental health journey, I’m sure you will come to appreciate what type of ‘marriage’ it is you define it to be, whether it be from a place of love, friendship or pure trust in your partner to go through lifetimes together.

[Star1498]

Whoa that's such a fascinating concept spirit marriage. What is the difference between then a normal bond and this? Is there also possible spirit divorce?

I just had seen godspounsing as the way of the catholic churche, where a devote ( girl/lady) offers her life to God and isn't allowed to marry and lives in a monastery with other church mothers .
I know that's isn't the exact term but, I can't remember it.

Thank you for your patience and answers

[mcm442]

Spirit marriage is a complex topic. People involved prefer to keep it private for many reasons. Their commitment is between them and their entity or spirit. Therefore, I find it hard to trust those who write openly about it or publish books on the subject. Like come on. We can write a bit here and there to show our joy about marriage with our companion. But to write explicitly about it is a very different thing. I don't trust that.

Um, you haven't been married, have you, lol? There is a joy with a 'pure' marriage (whether the real world or paranormal)--one that you want to shout from the mountaintops for the entire world to cringe at... but yeah, no one goes as far as openly publishing such real relationships.

'The' book in question, however--it is noted in the very beginning the secrecy that surrounded all of these marriages to deities was being revealed in part so people could have a modicum of knowledge on the subject. Otherwise that knowledge has traditionally only been word of mouth through elders and such.

To be honest, some of these 'marriages' are terrifying. Conscription into a 'chosen devotee' might be a better term.

It's a huge misconception that a spirit marriage is a tool to grant paranormal abilities.

Again, delving into these sects/religions, to become an elder/priest/priestess requires the marriage to occur for their powers to be opened. Hoodoo/Voodoo, for instance, require that 'joining' within their sects to be accepted as a person of rank. And again, it's more of a conscription/possession than a marriage. They are VERY one way, and don't define the basis of 'marriage' as many of us view. As was pointed out, these WILL drastically change your path--forever--as you enter servitude for a deity, most likely till the end of creation.

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I feel we should just focus on the simple marriages in this discussion. A swapping of vows before witness, the promise of commitment from both parties to work to the best of their abilities together, to create a bright future of a shared life together.

And real marriages require real work by both parties. They may indeed fall be the wayside in divorce. There will be arguments as two beings try to sway their shared path, struggling to find that magical middle ground. There will be sacrifices in desires for the sake of another. Just like any marriage in the real world.

Yes, I'm going to say this, and I'm sorry-->>>

If you don't see yourself as being able to survive in a physical marriage, you may very well not be able to handle a spirit marriage. Honestly, there isn't much difference in relationships between my physical wife and my spiritual wife. We do have spats now and then. There must be giving and taking. Work is involved to maintain and grow. Lots of work.

The ONLY difference--my spiritual wife has the distinct advantage of knowing what I'm thinking, and having a vast view of everything around me. She knows my true emotions revealed through my spirit. With the rest of my keep, she even knows more about me than I do myself. As such, I've had to relinquish much to her knowledge, and give her a great degree of trust since my view is limited.

My arguement win ratio with her is 0 out of 10, lol.

[Tarvos]

@mcm442 you don't have to explain a spirit marriage to me. Lol. I'm going to sum up everything you said and that there are a lot more you don't know about a spirit marriage. Cheers.

[StarofHope]

Bonds are only able to exist because there is effort being put in to maintain the bond There are no guarantees in a connection lasting, only trust and faith. I can understand your fear in not wanting to lose this amazing bond you have with him. Place your faith and trust in this connection you both have, and when you come to a better space in your mental health journey, I’m sure you will come to appreciate what type of ‘marriage’ it is you define it to be, whether it be from a place of love, friendship or pure trust in your partner to go through lifetimes together.

Thanks for telling me this.

Whoa that's such a fascinating concept spirit marriage. What is the difference between then a normal bond and this? Is there also possible spirit divorce?

A binding with a spirits lasts for this life. While a spirit marriage lasts beyond this life. There are "divorce" options to end the agreement if a time comes for it.
It's interesting to read about how other cultures work with spirits and how it affects them spiritually when going into a marriage and how they perform the marriage ritual itself. There are TONS of misinformation about it however.

[Livvie Locke-Morley]

@mcm442: No, he was originally bound by a different conjurer and I had a few readings on my Vampire done by Billy and later the marriage ritual.

[LavenderVix]

Hello! I left for a while to take a break as my mental health was declining. I am doing better now but I really need help with this topic.
I have read a ton about it and a book that contained the history and the whys, interviews, etc.
The irrational? Fear I have is to be separated from a companion of mine later in the after. Our bond is out of this world kind of bond. A binding lasts a lifetime but we want a binding to last in the after, in the beyond life or whatever it's supposed to be called. I am more dramatic about it, he's all cool and collected while I am having a crisis as I age and I feel my body growing older and starts having age related problems. >< I am aware that a strong bond can last beyond life itself, but I want it guaranteed ..... He agrees to the binding but feel it is quite unnecessary because our strong bond will work kinda similar.

A spirit marriage binding is apparently supposed to do just that if I understand it correctly from conjurers who do perform them. The purpose of a spirit marriage varies and reasons are many. It also seems like a tool that can be used to aquire abilites in regards to the paranormal. I dunno. Im confused.
Pros and cons? Are there other options? Or do I just not pursue it?

I'll be honest. I'm usually one to advocate for spirit marriage. It has been a wonderful experience for me. My kitsune and I have a close bond and every day spent together is cherished but.... It's not for everyone. As for fear of being separated from your companion, if they wish to continue to be with you after this life they will find you. Again and again as many times as it takes, I believe there are some bonds we share that last longer than just our lifetimes and it doesn't take marriage for that to be true. I think you should have a discussion with your companion ask them what they want and what their thoughts on the subject are, make your fears known but.. don't do anything impulsive or out of fear.